At some point in our conversation my friend stated that he is not frequenting me and for school get togehters because he is no settled in life unlike me… I got startled when I heard that from him as my MOM use to compare me with him claiming my friend is settled unlike me…

According to my mom my friend is having a decent job, a decent pay, got married & has got a kid… My mom always screams that I’m not settled like my school buddy…

But when my friend claimed he is not settled like me… I get really shocked… I for sure understood he means monetary status as settled… He feels a person should get married until he is financially independent… He said I’m right in delaying my marriage to get financially independent… My friend strongly feels attaining financial independence is real SETTLED…

Many times my mom use to ask me what am I going to do with all these money without a family… Number of times she advised me to wind my business and take up a job… My parents use to say they were not rich or financially stable when my and my sister was born… For them a person with a family even if he is not financially stable is real SETTLED…

This is a story of true perceptions… I’m seeing a person who is not happy because he is not financially independent thought he has a good family… I’ve seen the experience of another who experienced happiness in family than their financial independence…

Now I’ve to choose or find which perception is suited for me??? Am I SETTLED or not???

Why should the wedding ring be worn on the fourth finger?
There is a beautiful and convincing explanation given by the Chinese…..

• Thumb represents your Parents…
• Second (Index) finger represents your Siblings…
• Middle finger represents your-Self…
• Fourth (Ring) finger represents your Life Partner & the Last (Little) finger represents your children…

• Firstly, open your palms (face to face), bend the middle fingers and hold them together – back to back…
• Secondly, open and hold the remaining three fingers and the thumb – tip to tip…

(As shown in the figure below):

Now, try to separate your thumbs (representing the parents)…, they will open, because your parents are not destined to live with you lifelong, and have to leave you sooner or later.

Please join your thumbs as before and separate your Index fingers (representing siblings)…., they will also open, because your brothers and sisters will have their own families and will have to lead their own separate lives.

Now join the Index fingers and separate your Little fingers (representing your children)…., they will open too, because the children also will get married and settle down on their own some day.

Finally, join your Little fingers, and try to separate your Ring fingers (representing your spouse).
You will be surprised to see that you just CANNOT….., because Husband & Wife have to remain together all their lives – through thick and thin!!

Please try this out………….
ISN’T THIS A LOVELY THEORY?

• I’m getting aged and choices were getting dim…
• They have a responsibility to full-fill…
• He believes that a women is needed in a man’s life to be disciplined…

This was one emotional issues I’ve to handle… I know my parents have their own point of view and they want to full-fill their responsibility… But I’ve my point of view which I know they are not going to buy it…

Still I don’t know if i’m prepared for a marriage… I’m not sure if I can full-fill the responsibility as a husband or a father as I’m so irresponsible… Also I enjoy being irresponsible and still not having the feel of getting married…

Now it is time to make a call if I must fall for my parents emotions or live the life I like…

Caution

Both the characters in this post are fictional. It doesn’t describe any individual nor it is real. Written purely on the imagination of the  BLLOGGER.

This is reply to Miss.Anonymous on what made him like her??

First Mr.Anonymous went to meet her to tell he was not interested to get married now because;

• His Bachelor life was still going very strong and he was not feeling a need for a companion.
• He felt still he was not mentally mature to get married.
• He wanted to take a break for 6 months form mainstream life and stay in a Buddhist Monastery & lead a life of a monk just like his icon Steve Jobs before marriage.
• He wanted to get married at the age of 36 because that is when Sergey Brim got married.

But the moment when he met her in person there was something that flashed on the mind of Mr.Anonymous which said “if he had to me successful in pursuing his dreams then he had to go for her”. It was a intuition based decision which got flashed for a second.

He went ahead and accepted for a proposal which he has not planned for the moment.

There must also be some magic with Miss. Anonymous who made the unexpected.

It was time to meet all the cousins and pull down each other. Other side elders were introducing us to other distant relatives. WE were there in the hall for 4 hours and time went in a jiffy.

Then we came back to aunt’s house only to find that the power hasn’t come back. I went to a nearby Hotel named PAMS which had only one AC room and i blocked the room immediately. When i picked my sister, mom & granny power came back. Sadly hotel denied a refund and we all stayed in the hotel.

Next day we all got up by 5 AM and reached the hall by 6 AM for marriage. Again 5 hours went like a giffy. But the hall was too hot for us to stay till noon. After the dinner we immediately started to drive back to Chennai.

Since i drove the previous day & because of poor sleep i was very tired & with great difficulty i drove back home. After that i had a slept immediately by 6 PM and got up only at 10 AM the next day.

Then I started the day with couple of tweets and posted a Blog. Then came my cousin who wants to be a part of my marketing initiative and I took him as a Business Development intern.

I did some mentoring which started with some enlightenment of his current small business and then I took him through his role as an intern. Hope he enjoys working under me.

Got a call from my friend who came to give his marriage invitation. Then spent an hour with him and took him to the house of another friend.

Then retuned to office to pickup another cousin who started an aquarium business and he visited my office to give his consultation on setting up an aquarium in my office.

Then by the end of the day me and Bala thought of going for a movie and we went to Satyam Cinemas and booked a ticket for Kurbaan. As it was only 8 o clock and the show was by 10.30 we thought we could spend the remaining time at Amethyst as Bala has never been there before.

At Amethyst it was as usual a nice atmosphere but the food was really bad. Then this time I was more irated by their behavior. in their menu they has specified their timings as 10 AM – 10 PM.

But instead they started closing the shop by 9.15 and the guy came near us and he switched off the fan without having the courtesy to ask for an excuse. They did all things to drive us out even before 9.30 PM and we came out with frustration.

But we were talking business, cracking jokes and I didn’t want to spoil my mood and I drove till island ground and returned and parked the car at Satyam Annex and we took a walk to theatre.

My expectations we set high on movie as Shiv Sena has said that they are going to send saris to Kareena Kapoor & while getting the tickets we were told it was an adults only movie and we cant take minors.

I thought there would be some adult scenes in the movie and nothing of that sort was shown. All hype created by promos, media and the person issuing tickets ended in disappointing me after the movie got over.

Over all it was a day where I was engaged every minute and I’m happy to close the day.

Good Night!!!

Kuttappan said, “You should share responsibilities with due love and respect to each other.

Then absolutely there will be no problems.”

“Can you explain?” asked Mathai.

Kuttappan said, “In my house, I take decisions on bigger issues where as my wife decides on smaller issues. We do not interfere in each other’s decisions.”

Still not convinced, Mathai asked Kuttappan “Give me some examples”

Kuttappan said, “Smaller issues like which car we should buy, how much amount to save, when to visit home town, which Sofa, air conditioner, refrigerator to buy, monthly expenses, whether to keep a maid or not etc are decided by my wife. I just agree to it”

Mathai asked, “Then what is your role?”

Kuttappan said, “My decisions are only for very big issues….

Like whether America should attack Iraq, whether Britain should lift sanction over Zimbabwe, whether to widen African economy, whether Sachin Tendulkar should retire etc. Do you know one thing, my wife NEVER objects to any of these”.

That is the secret of my happy married life !!!

This movie got released hen I finished my schooling and I watched it because I’m a great fan of Tabu then. Also the movie was full of fun as movie itself was comical and the dubbing made it even funnier.

The plot was not very new for Tollyhood or for Kollyhood but the screen made the movie more interesting and it is one of the handfuls of dubbed movie that was a hit in Tamil.

It is a simple Romeo & Juliet tale which ends with a happy note.

Today watching that movie took me back to school days and really I’m unable to believe it is been 12 years since this movie got released. It is hard to believe that Tabu has got old.

Now I think I must collect DVD’s of all my favorite movies and I must but this one immediately so that I wont forget it.